Buttplug guide: Dately's complete guide to using Buttplug
Are you also curious about how you can introduce anal play and buttplugs to your sex life, but don't quite know where to start? So read along here, because we have written a complete guide and to-do lists for you when you get started.
That's why you must introduce buttplugs into your sex life!
For many, stimulation of the anus and use of buttplugs can be absolutely fantastic and can bring great pleasure to both parties in a relationship. Whether you have a vulva or were born with a penis and therefore have a prostate, both can achieve great pleasure.
What is a butt plug?
A butt plug is a sex toy designed to be used anally. Some believe that buttplugs are only used as "preparation" for anal sex. This is not true. The pleasure of using buttplugs is a sensation in itself.
Buttplugs are available in many sizes and variants. When you are a beginner and need to experiment, it is always a good idea to start in the small sizes and slowly move up in size over time.
Why use a butt plug?
Since the anus is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones on your body, the use of buttplugs enhances the other pleasure during sex.
All people, regardless of gender, can benefit from using buttplugs. Not only does it stimulate the nerve cells in the anus, but inserting buttplugs during sex further intensifies stimulation during sex. So when one of you or both of you have inserted a butt plug during sex, you can both achieve even greater pleasure and more intense orgasms.
How are they used?
We are all different and so are our pleasures and desires. However, a butt plug is not basically designed to be moved in and out or back and forth, as, for example, a dildo is. It simply needs to be inserted and then left in place while you have sex, and then removed.
Safety and buttplugs
When we experiment, safety is always important. A butt plug always has a stop at the end. This is because the anus can create a form of vacuum, so to prevent the used toy from coming up too far, toys with a stopper at the end must always be used.
Preparation
It's a good idea for you both to prepare before you start your naughty play with buttplugs. There are some things that are important to know beforehand. We have collected them for you here:
Seven good tips before you start playing with buttplugs
If you are in doubt about what preparation is required before, our sexual wellness specialist has found 7 good tips before you start playing with a butt plug
1. Good hygiene is a must
Especially with anal play and the use of buttplugs, good hygiene is always important. Always make sure your sex toy is clean before and after use. Never use the same toy, fingers or penis first in both anus and then in the vagina without cleaning first. The bacterial flora of the vagina is sensitive, and bacteria from the rectum can cause infections in the abdomen. Good hygiene is therefore essential.
2. Lots of lube
In order for your butt plug to be inserted easily, painlessly and safely, you need lube - and lots of it!
Silicone-based lube has the best "gliding" and works well for play that only involves skin to skin. When you add sex toys to your play, always use a water-based lubricant. This is because sex toys are most often made of silicone, and can break when they come into contact with silicone-based lubricant.
3. Concerns
Some people experience defecation concerns at the thought of anal sex. Fortunately, our rectums are designed in such a way that faeces are only found close to the opening when you go to the toilet. With basic hygiene, the rectum should therefore be clean enough to play with butt plugs. If you are still concerned, go to the toilet first and wash the area around the anus with a shower head. Anal douches can also be used, but do not overdo it as it can cause diarrhea. Remember that we are all just human, and respect that the body is the way it is. Instead of worrying, be proud that you "dare" to challenge yourself to achieve greater enjoyment and thus connection with each other.
4. Patience
When you play anal, it is crucial that it takes place at a calm pace, with a safe environment for the recipient. To be able to relax in the anus, we need to feel safe and turned on. You yourself know best how you create the safe environment and the loving, sensual atmosphere needed for the recipient to relax as best as possible. Especially here, the warm-up and foreplay are crucial for the good experience. Kiss and caress the recipient and make sure they feel turned on and ready before inserting the butt plug.
5. Gentle, loving massage
Relax the sphincter that holds the anus closed by massaging gently. With plenty of lubricant on one finger, you can safely massage around the anus, and gently move the fingertip in and out. When the anus is so relaxed that it no longer tightens around the finger, you are ready to carefully insert the plug. Good positions for this can be lying on your back with your legs up or standing on all fours. Breathe in, and only with a deep exhalation is the plug introduced. If it hurts too much, you are not relaxed enough. Then take a few steps back to cuddling, kissing and gently massaging around the anus before trying again.
6. Have fun
When your plug fits as it should, there is only to do whatever else feels nice. Whether it's penetration sex, oral sex or something else, enjoy the heightened senses and stimulation that the butt plug provides. As a beginner, it may be a good idea to take it out within 15-20 minutes. Otherwise, the general rule is that it can be worn as long as it feels nice. Enjoy experimenting and trying something new together - and let the moments and enjoyment unfold naturally and at your own pace.
7. Carefully pull out your plug
When you have finished playing and need to pull out the plug, feel free to lie on your back. Again you take a deep breath and relax the anus while on a long exhalation you carefully pull out the butt plug. Remember good cleaning of the anus and toys afterwards.
We have also made a guide to anal sex, which can be read HERE
Enjoy!
