How to use sex toys in a relationship
Sex toys can be a great way to explore each other and strengthen the intimacy in your relationship. It can add a new dimension of excitement, joy and pleasure to your sensual well-being. Whether you are brand new to sex toys or already experienced, there are many ways you can invite it into your relationship.
Here are some good tips and advice on how you can use sex toys together:
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Communication is key:
Start conversations about sex toys with your partner. Openness and honesty are essential to create a safe and comfortable atmosphere. Share your desires, boundaries and expectations to ensure you are both on the same page.
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Exploration:
Take the time to learn about the different types of sex toys that are out there. Read reviews, watch videos and research what interests you both. This gives you the opportunity to find the right toy for your needs and wishes.
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Shopping together:
Make shopping for sex toys a shared experience. Visit a store in reality together or look around the web (for example right here at Dately ). This gives you the opportunity to discuss and choose toys that arouse your curiosity and desire.
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Start with something simple:
If you are new to sex toys, it might be a good idea to start with something simple and readily available. Eg. a vibration ring, a blindfold or a massage light can be a good introduction to exploring pleasure together.
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Let it be part of the foreplay:
Integrate sex toys as part of your foreplay. It can be an exciting way to stimulate each other and increase desire before intercourse. Use e.g. a vibrator to explore each other's bodies or a sensual massage oil to pamper each other.
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Explore new erogenous zones:
Sex toys can help you discover and stimulate new erogenous zones on the body. Try experimenting with different types of toys on different areas of the body to find out what feels most comfortable and stimulating.
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Take it at your own pace:
Be patient and take it at your own pace when exploring sex toys together. Give yourselves permission to experiment and adjust until you find what works best for you. Always respect each other's boundaries and listen to each other's signals.
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Play with distribution of power:
Sex toys can also be used to explore power distribution and dominance in a relationship, if that's something you're both interested in. Try, for example, handcuffs, bondage equipment or blindfolds to create an erotic and intense experience.
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Fantasies and role-playing:
Sex toys can help bring your fantasies and role play to life. Explore different costumes, handcuffs or feathers that can add an extra dimension of excitement and play. -
Use it in long distance conditions:
If you are separated by distance, sex toys can be a great way to maintain sexual intimacy. Explore remote-controlled toys or digital devices that can connect you remotely and create excitement and intimacy.
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Discover new positions and techniques:
Use sex toys as a tool to explore new positions and techniques in bed. Vibrating eggs, dildos or penis rings can provide extra stimulation and open up new ways of enjoying each other.
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Explore Tantric Sexuality:
Integrate sex toys into your tantric sexual practice. Use e.g. massage oils, sensual nipple clamps or sex toys specially designed for tantric pleasure. This can strengthen your intimate connection and create deeper sexual understanding.
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Use it as a means of communication:
Sex toys can also be used as a means of communicating and expressing your sexual desires and needs. Choose toys together and share your fantasies and preferences, which can strengthen your communication and connection in the bedroom.
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Experiment with different textures and materials:
There is a wide variety of sex toys that vary in textures and materials. Try e.g. silicone, glass, metal or soft textures to discover what feels most comfortable and stimulating for both of you.
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Be open to learning and experimenting:
Be willing to learn and experiment together. Do not let yourself be limited by any taboos or prejudices. Keep an open and curious attitude and be prepared to explore new aspects of your sexuality.
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Make it a fun experience:
Use sex toys as a source of fun and play in your relationship. Make a "toy box" with different toys and let yourself be inspired for spontaneous and erotic play.
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Consider each other's comfort level:
Always respect each other's boundaries and comfort level when using sex toys. Communication and mutual trust are key elements to ensure that both parties feel safe and happy. Start slowly and be responsive to each other's reactions and needs.
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Discover double stimulation:
Try sex toys that provide both internal and external stimulation simultaneously. This can be in the form of a vibrator or a penis ring with a clitoral stimulator. Double stimulation can lead to intense orgasms and increased pleasure for both of you.
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Play with temperature:
Explore sex toys that can change the temperature and add an extra dimension of sensation to your intimate moments. Try e.g. heated or cooling vibrators or massage oils to create different sensations on the body.
